Interdependence Vs. Codependency
As humans we are inherently dependent on others, decades of research has shown this. As babies, we are vulnerable and require care not only for basic survival but to thrive. Our brains don’t finish maturing until halfway through our 20’s and we live in groups (otherwise known as families).
What exactly is the difference between co-dependency and interdependency? This is something that comes up often.
The term codependent has been around for years and was originally used to refer to spouses of alcoholics. Codependency is characterized by someone belonging to a dysfunctional, one-sided relationship where one person relies on the other for meeting nearly all of their emotional and self-esteem needs. It also describes a relationship that enables another person to maintain irresponsible, addictive, or underachieving behaviour.
In codependent relationships partners often display the following:
An exaggerated sense of responsibility for the actions of others
Healthy Relationships: Interdependence
In contrast to codependency, interdependence is not about needing your partner. Interdependence is choosing your partner every day. Interdependence values emotional intimacy while allowing you to maintain a strong sense of self.
In interdependent relationships partners most often:
Communicate clearly and actively listen
Set healthy boundaries
Take responsibility for their actions
Repair injuries quickly
Create time for personal interests
Bargain with each other to create win-win situations
Engage and respond to each other
Don’t keep parts of themselves hidden to please their partner
If you are struggling to maintain your sense of self in your relationship, or feel a lack of balance, reach out for a consult. Couples counselling can help you and your partner learn to function in a way that benefits both of you, where you are both equals.
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