You are frustrated and stuck in a pattern that isn't working. You want things to change but don't know how to make this happen. You wonder how you ended up here. You are tired of fighting. Maybe you don't even fight anymore but you just feel like you are invisible to your partner or maybe you spent so long raising your children that you don't know who you are as a couple. You miss the way things were. You know you need some help if anything is going to change.
Relationships are complex. I have worked with many couples in therapy and families to sort through what sometimes feels like a total mess. Having someone neutral often helps people communicate and move forward in a positive direction.
Counselling is a safe place to talk about issues that can sometimes be hard to bring up at home. It is also a time to work through issues that result in arguments but don't ever feel like they get resolved.
Couples counselling sessions can help couples to:
Identify and name the problems each partner brings forward
Learn to express emotions in a relationship
Learn and implement effective conflict resolution strategies
Discuss emotional ad sexual intimacy and whether each partner's needs are being met
Highlight areas of strength and shared values, as well as areas for improvement
Set goals together to improve relationship dynamics
Some reasons people choose to attend relationship therapy:
To improve your communication skills especially around issues that cause arguments
To understand each other better
To learn to parent as a team
To find guidance in deciding whether or not to end a relationship
To find strategies to cope with and process a separation/divorce
To rebuild trust in the relationship after infidelity
What To Expect
Your first session will involve an initial assessment of your well being as well as an intake of your personal/family history and background. Depending on the complexity of the issue that has brought you to therapy, an assessment may take several sessions. Subsequent therapy sessions are 50 minutes in length and are unique to each couple or family's treatment plan.